Women’s Midlife Coaching & Courses
Midlife rarely arrives one thing at a time. Menopause is often working underneath it all, changing your body and your mind. Everything around you shifts at once, and your own confidence in what you’re capable of starts to waver. I’m a board-certified health and wellness coach and a college educator with a graduate degree in psychology. I’ve also spent a decade in this myself, so I bring real knowledge, experience, and a map of the terrain. I’ll walk it with you and bring you everything I’ve learned, so you come through this more yourself: steadier, and a lot less willing to shrink for anyone.
Here’s how I talk about this. And how I won’t.
I’m not going to call menopause just “a season” or promise you a tidy next chapter. It isn’t a phase you pass through on your way back to “normal.” It’s real, and it often lands at the very same time as caring for aging parents, emerging adult or “grown” kids, complex relationships, work, and loss. And it doesn’t wrap up on schedule.
I’m also not going to tell you to age gracefully. It’s a lovely word. And yet that word has always meant quietly: stay pretty, stay pleasant, don’t take up room, decline without complaint. That’s not aging; that’s disappearing politely. You don’t owe anyone that.
What I believe instead is that you get to meet this all intentionally with eyes open, on your own terms. Not carried along, not told how it should look on you, but deciding for yourself: understanding what’s happening in your body and your life, making your own informed choices alongside your clinicians and the people you love and value, living these years with intention rather than apology. That’s what I offer. Not an exit, not a makeover, just honest and steady company from someone who has been and often is where you are, and the room to carry what’s yours, with agency: your own way.
My Story…
It started before I had a name for it. What I know now is that I was in perimenopause for a good while without understanding what was happening to me, only that my body and my mind had stopped behaving the way they always had.
Then came the physical gauntlet. A frozen shoulder, and then a shoulder and bicep surgery. Orthopedists, surgeons, pain specialists, round after round of physical therapy and chiropractic care. I rebuilt slowly from there: weight-bearing exercise, cardio, more walking, more yoga, all of it to get my strength and health back.
I tried nearly everything else, too. Countless remedies and supplements, some I still use, many I set aside. Different types of rx hormone therapy until I found one that helps, not completely, but a great deal. I changed what I consumed to ease the symptoms I could reach.
And I leaned on what I already knew. My training in psychology and the complementary therapies, and practices I trust: CBT and DBT, reframing the stories I was telling myself, meditation, mindfulness, small rituals, all to understand my own moods and thinking instead of being swept along by them.
And none of this was happening in a quiet life. Those same years asked everything else of me at once: caring for aging parents and the people I love, and losing some of them. Leaving a career, and a home, and moving clear across the country during a pandemic. Launching my children into their own lives, and learning to love them and a young grandchild from far away. There were losses in there that rearranged me for good, some I’ll name and some I’ll keep. I have held it all. That is how I know what it asks of you.
I’ve been at this for about ten years now, with my own strengths and a stubbornly questioning mind. Here is what a decade taught me: nothing fixed all of it, and I’m still in it, still figuring it out. There is no single thing that ‘solves’ menopause. What there is, is how you meet it. Taking the reins of your own care. Holding your boundaries. Giving yourself grace. Weighing real evidence and real expertise. Letting yourself grieve what has changed. And staying open and curious, willing to try things and check in with yourself as you go.
That is why I do this. I don’t want another woman moving through these years as blind as I was at the start. I would rather hand you my trials and my errors, my experience and my strengths, so you can meet your own midlife with more knowledge, more support, and feeling a great deal less alone.